You know those little bio boxes you have to fill in on a websites like Twitter? I hate those. It’s always hard for me to explain who I am and what I’m about without seeming either boring or narcissistic, so usually I just leave them blank. In a world full of labels where everybody insists they don’t need to fit into neat little boxes, we sure seem to do it a lot, especially when it comes to sexuality. Dominant, submissive, kinky, vanilla, queer, straight, gay, lesbian, femme, butch, monogamous, polyamorous, and the list goes on and on. These labels exist as a way to help us define ourselves (or, more often, as a way for others to define us), and become a part of us even when we don’t want to be limited by them.

So where do I fit into all of these labels? That question has been a struggle for me lately, but also a wonderful learning experience. There are times where I feel like I didn’t fit in with other sex bloggers, for numerous reasons. After all, I’m completely monogamous, mostly vanilla, and before discovering sex blogs I had never given a second thought to my own gender identity. On paper it seems as if I am completely out of my element, so what the hell am I even doing here?

Being exposed to people with different view points and lifestyles has not only taught me a lot about them, but has also allowed me to learn a lot about myself. I don’t ever see myself having a threesome or opening up my relationship, but I also respect those who have the ability to love/fuck/whatever without those limits. While I can’t say I’m anywhere near as kinky as many of my fellow bloggers, I do enjoy a hand around my throat or a sharp tug on my hair during sex. I’ve started to become more aware of my submissive nature, especially in my sexuality. Since I’m generally very in control of my day-to-day life, I had never fully recognized that side of myself.

So even though sometimes I feel boring and wonder why anyone would even want to read what I have to say, I’m going to keep doing this. I am going to stop caring about how other people perceive me, and just put myself out there. No sugar-coating, no bullshit, just me.

Let me start out by saying that I have become one of Tantus Inc.’s biggest fans. What is not to love about a company that makes body-safe products, is mindful of the environment, and has an amazingly strong woman as its president? Not to mention that all Tantus toys are hand-made right here in the US! (To find out more about Tantus Inc. you can visit their website here.) When PinkCherry.com gave me the chance to review a Tantus product, I jumped at the opportunity.

I was lucky enough to receive the Tantus Acute, and let me tell you… it is AMAZING. This has become my one of my favorite dildos, hands down. I mean, what’s not to love? The Acute is hand-made out of 100% ultra-premium platinum silicone, making it phthalate-free and completely body safe. If you have not yet experienced Tantus’ silicone, please do yourself a favor and try it as soon as you can.

The Acute is available in three colors, two of which are available through PinkCherry.com (Purple Haze, a swirled lilac-esque color, and Midnight Purple, a rich deep purple). It is moderate in size, with an insertable length of 5” and a diameter of 1¼”. The Acute features a flared base, making it harness compatible and safe for anal play. Since it is constructed of silicone, you can sterilize the Acute by boiling, wiping with a 10% bleach solution, or running through the dishwasher (top rack, no soap).

At first I scoffed at claims of how great the Acute was. It really didn’t look that amazing compared to some of the fancier silicone dildos available. As a sex toy reviewer, I figured it was my duty to put these claims to the test. The result: love at first orgasm. Having tried plenty of g-spot dildos, I didn’t have high hopes for it in that area… I was wrong. The Acute zeroed in on my g-spot and went straight to work. Even when I’m only craving clitoral stimulation I will reach for the Acute, just to have something to clench onto. The Acute would also work well for prostate stimulation, although I haven’t tested it out for obvious reasons (like my lack of a prostate).

I really can’t stop proclaiming my love for the Acute. Although some size queens may be left wanting more, I have found it to be the perfect size for me. Since its arrival, I have been tweeting praises of its pure awesomeness and telling everybody who would listen to get one. That leads me to you, dear reader. If you would like to purchase the Tantus Acute, please head on over to PinkCherry.com and take your choice of the Purple Haze for $29.99 or the Midnight Purple for $37.99. Thank you so much PinkCherry.com!

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Long gone are my days of drug-store lubes like KY and Astroglide. Not to say that I’m a lubricant connoisseur, if you will, or have nearly as many bottles of the stuff as some of my fellow blogger friends. I’ve found a few lubes that get the job done, and I generally stick with them.

PinkCherry.com was kind enough to send me a bottle of ID Moments Lubricant to break me out of my lube rut. ID Moments is a water-based lubricant that is glycerin and paraben free, making it perfect for women who are sensitive to getting yeast infections. Since ID Moments is water-based, it is compatible with silicone toys. The bottle states that it is a “hypoallergenic lubricant” and “ideal for sensitive skin”.

ID Moments smells fantastic, very much like sour-apple candy or champagne (I can’t pick which it smells like more, it’s almost bizarre). When licked there is a semi-sweet, very mild taste that would not be unpleasant if you just happened to get it in your mouth on accident. The lube is not very thick, so I would not recommend it for anal sex. It’s very slippery, and doesn’t get tacky or sticky during use. Since it is water-based it soaks right into the skin, and I was never left with a sticky residue like other lubes I have tried in the past.

ID Moments has become a staple in my nightstand and something I reach for regularly. Head on over to PinkCherry.com and pick up your own 2.7 oz. bottle for $11.88 (17.6 oz. bottle also available for $39.88). Thank you PinkCherry.com!

1. Before the industrial revolution, most people never traveled more than 30 miles from their home. How far from your birth place do you now live?
Same town. Born and raised, weird right? I’ll probably end up leaving next year, but who can complain about beautiful California?

2. What is the fartherest distancet from home you have you have ever had sex or an orgasm? What is there farthest distance you have travelled from your home to have a sexual encounter?
I don’t log this stuff down, so no idea. Farthest distance travelled? No more than an hour most likely.

3. How many states (or Canadian provences or your country’s geopolitical division) and counties have you had sex and/or an orgasms in?
Again, I don’t log this stuff down. No clue.

4. Have you ever had sex in a vehicle? While the vehicle was moving?
I’ve fooled around in a car at a drive-in, but that’s as far as it’s ever gotten.

5. Do you have any travel related fantasy? If so, share, please.
Nope. (Well that was easy)

Bonus: On holidays that honor our military do you tend to rememeber those currently serving or veterans of military service?
Well… I am dating someone in the military, so that’s a given.

When I found out I would be getting the Fun Factory Share courtesy of Babeland.com, I was pretty excited. My partner and I had just begun talking about pegging, and I figured this would be a good goal to work up to. Since we don’t yet have a harness, the Share seemed like the perfect toy to help us decide whether we should invest in one or not, and whether we wanted to continue this journey to pegging-land.

The Share is 100% silicone, phthalates-free, and great for partner play since it can be sterilized by boiling, throwing in the dishwasher (top rack, no soap), or wiping with a 10% bleach solution (make sure to rinse after!). It comes in three colors: black, pink, and purple. The Share is surprisingly heavy, weighing in at 1.5 pounds. It features two insertable ends, and can also be used as a solo toy, with the longer end better suited for thrusting. The fuckee end has an insertable length of 6 ¼” and encompasses a semi-realistic phallic head and two ridges on the underside running the length of the shaft. The fucker end has an insertable length of 4 ¼” and features a bean-shaped bulbous shaft.

When I took the Share out of its distinctive Fun Factory packaging, I was immediately surprised by how floppy it was. The connection between the two parts is the thinnest part of the entire toy, causing the long shaft of the fuckee end to bob up and down when the Share is held by the bean-shaped fucker end. Since receiving the Share, I’ve realized that this simply will not work for pegging my partner without a harness, which was the entire point of the toy. Along with that, the fucker end is just too big for me and very uncomfortable once it is inserted.

As far as solo play goes, the Share is pretty middle of the road. I won’t be reaching for it on a regular basis, but I didn’t completely hate it either. The silicone that Fun Factory used not only collects lint like crazy, but also seems to be a magnet for static electricity every time I touch it. The silicone seems to grip and causes more friction than other dildos, making it slightly uncomfortable during thrusting. On a more positive note, while the Share is bulky and hard to maneuver for partner play, it handles much better when used solo. The thin connection point makes a great handle, which makes controlling the Share on your own a snap.

While the Share didn’t live up to my expectations, I have a feeling it would be better suited for partner play with a harness. To get your own Fun Factory Share for $119, visit Babeland.com. If the Share just isn’t up your alley, Babeland has a great variety of body-safe toys to choose from. Thank you Babeland!